Nothing can prepare you for Varanasi (Benares), the sacred Hindu city on the Ganges River.
It is the essence of India: a completely overwhelming sensory overload, where life and death blend too comfortably amidst sacred ritual and mortal details (like death and that pesky grim reaper). Varanasi one of the holiest places in India, where Hindu pilgrims come to wash away their sins in the Ganges or to cremate their loved ones at the confluence of the Ganges, Varuna, and Asi Rivers. It is apparently an auspicious place to die, as it offers liberation from moksha (the cycle of death and rebirth). Countless people come here to die and to be cremated.
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From the colorfully-dressed pilgrims, persistent touts peddling their wares, food stalls selling
pakoras and
samosas and other treats, never ending festivals, and open-pyre cremation of bodies by the Ganges, Varanasi envelops you.
There was, however, a recent tri-city market bombing, which reduced the number of pilgrims and tourists–apparently even moksha-dodging pilgrims like to dodge local terrorism. I was pleasantly surprised that we were the only foreigners to be seen on our early morning walk.
The bathing ghats–really the center of spiritual life–run the length of the river for about 2 kilometers (a little over one mile). Some people were bathing and there were gaggles of sadhus, but not as many as I expected; really, I expected a sea of saffron.

Next to the Ganges River (Varanasi, Uttar Pradesh, India)

Next to the Ganges River (Varanasi, Uttar Pradesh, India)Next to the Ganges River (Varanasi, Uttar Pradesh, India)

Next to the Ganges River (Varanasi, Uttar Pradesh, India)

Next to the Ganges River (Varanasi, Uttar Pradesh, India)

Ganges River (Varanasi, Uttar Pradesh, India)

Next to the Ganges River (Varanasi, Uttar Pradesh, India)
We walked along the ghats until we were approached by a wood tout (we didn’t know he was a wood tout at the time), and were given a short lecture on cremation and the meaning of it all. In exchange for the information we “donated” some rupees to one of the “family custodians of the flame,” supposedly for poor people who could not afford cremation. Since there was also an offer to go to a silk shop, it might not have been true, but we both agreed it was well worth the price of information.
The first cremation ghat was for non-Hindus. We were told it takes about three hours to cremate a body; the cost depends on the amount and quality of the wood. Sandalwood is the most desirable; the body is weighed and the rate is calculated based on the amount of of wood. Since the whole body is cremated, there is not supposed to be an odor; indeed, there is just a very, very heavy smell of sandalwood. The bodies are brought to the river soon after death, particularly in the summer (for obvious reasons).
The body is first put on a stretcher, swathed in saffron and/or gold fabric, given a quick purification bath (really just a dunk in the river), than placed on the cremation pyre. After the cremation, the remains are put in the river. Only the male family members attend the cremation; it is implied women are too emotional, even though we were told that men cry on the inside. Some people are not cremated, but sunk in the river: holy men, children, pregnant women, people who committed suicide, and those with leprosy and small pox.
I was astonished by how matter-of-fact the whole process was. We all face death–let us face it, it happens to all of us–but we actually saw a group of male family members playing cards while they waited for the cremation. People quibbled regarding payment and bought fabric to swathe the body. There were about five cremations in progress and it was all very, very routine, just another day at the ghats and facing the afterlife.
Further upriver, we came to the main cremation ghat. Words cannot describe the scene and photos are not allowed, but I am fairly certain I will never forget that image. There were fifteen or twenty cremations in progress, with boatloads of wood at the ready. Smoke was everywhere, sandalwood permeated the air, with the glow of the fire in between plumes of smoke and the movement of the living. Again, a very matter-of-fact operation: bodies were regularly delivered on stretchers and preparations were made then and there. The government built an electronic crematorium, but we were told pilgrims still preferred the traditional method.
I have noticed in India that there is much less obsession with life, with the short period of time we have on this earth. Is it because of reincarnation, because you get to come back around? Because life is so precarious here? I cannot explain it, but there is a frank acceptance that death is the final part of the life cycle–certainly not the case in our youth-oriented culture.
We wandered the bazaar in a daze. Later I bought some candles to float on the river for my late sister and mother and we watched them drift off into the infinity of dissolving moksha.

Ganga Aarti next to the Ganges River (Varanasi, Uttar Pradesh, India)

Ganga Aarti next to the Ganges River (Varanasi, Uttar Pradesh, India)

Ganga Aarti next to the Ganges River (Varanasi, Uttar Pradesh, India)

Ganga Aarti next to the Ganges River (Varanasi, Uttar Pradesh, India)
We noticed the priests preparing for the sunset ganga aarti ceremony or puja at Dasaswamedh Ghat. There were six stations next to the river, I think because there were so many people. As the sun went down, the priests chanted to the four directions with an assortment of things: incense, candles, flame, etc. We left when it started raining, and a sadhu dotted us when we we left with the rest of the crowd.
It was truly one of the most incredible days thus far.

Next to the Ganges River (Varanasi, Uttar Pradesh, India)

Next to the Ganges River (Varanasi, Uttar Pradesh, India)

Morning Boat on the Ganges River (Varanasi, Uttar Pradesh, India)

Candles on the Ganges River (Varanasi, Uttar Pradesh, India)

Next to the Ganges River (Varanasi, Uttar Pradesh, India)

Next to the Ganges River (Varanasi, Uttar Pradesh, India)

Next to the Ganges River (Varanasi, Uttar Pradesh, India)